HOW CAN I LISTEN IN A GOOD WAY? TESTING AND PRACTICING LISTENING SKILLS - AN IFOTES PROJECT
We value everyone's right to be heard and to receive emotional support, and we believe that listening is a key skill for providing emotional well-being in all situations. Yet people don't listen to understand, they listen to respond. This is because we are used to talking about what concerns or interests us. The deep urge to send and the simultaneous incompetence to receive also seems to be a spirit of time. Yet listening is the soul of conversation: it's about mastering emotions, juggling values, reflecting needs, respecting maps of reality, conveying information and asking useful questions. MonaLisa (Measurement of nowadays advanced listening skills) was a EU project that in 2019-2022 explored what competencies are useful to be learned to acquire listening skills. The result is eight competencies for good listening, a web-based listening test and a practice platform for improving listening skills. You will learn about the research on listening competencies, the results and the learning platform in this presentation.
LISTENING SKILLS, THE ART OF ASKING QUESTIONS
To write her book “The Magic of Listening”, Italian-Swiss journalist Francesca Sacco took a short training in a benevolent questioning technique. More specifically, the Solution-Focused Approach (SFA).
The SFA was developed starting in the 1980s in the United States at Family therapy centre. The psychologists had noticed that some patients who were unwell were still complaining about being unwell years later. These psychologists then developed a questioning technique to help people get moving again. These are particular and very specific questions. They encourage people to think. The idea is to explore the person's inner resources, based on the principle that everyone has inner resources.
Theologian, social scientist, communication psychologist and master of short strategic therapy, NLP teaching trainer, author, head of the TelefonSeelsorge Hagen-Mark, project manager of IFOTES Europe, vice president of the German Working Group for Youth and Marriage Counseling. Current publication: Medial Dialogue Competence.
Francesca Sacco is a Swiss-Italian writer and professional journalist, specializing in scientific investigation and popularization. As a freelance journalist, she has worked for some twenty newspapers in Switzerland, France and Belgium, including Le Temps, La Tribune de Genève, La Revue Médicale Suisse, Le Monde and Libération.